"Often we don't set boundaries, we let people do things that are NOT OK, or get away with behaviours that are not ok. Then we are just resentful and hateful.
For me, I'd rather be loving and generous, and very straight forward with what's ok and what's not ok.
I used to assume people were sucking on purpose, just to piss me off. But that left me stingy and annoyed and hurt and withholding.
I'll never know if people are doing the best they can or not. But when I assume they are, it makes my life a lot better". [When we believe the best in others, we experience more of what I believe - instead of finding all the faults or being easily offended, we can be generous with the way we see them, believing they are doing the best they can, believing they are coming from a place of love. And even if they're not, believing the best frees you from that burden, it shifts your view to reframe the situation].
"Generosity can't exist without boundaries, but we don't like setting boundaries as we don't want to disappoint others, and we care what others think.
Boundaries are not easy, but I think they are the key to self-love and treating others with kindness.
Boundaries are essential to empathy, compassion, vulnerability.
Boundaries are respect - here's what's ok for me and here's what's not." @brenebrown
GOLD! Boundaries are so essential - not only for us, but to love others well too.
Question - ask yourself - What BOUNDARIES need to be in place - for me to stay in my integrity (being true to myself and my needs) and make the most generous assumptions about others?
We'd love to share together. At the moment for me, it's putting better boundaries on myself - boundaries for space to rest and refill, letting go of some unrealistic boundaries of "shoulds", and putting up boundaries around work and words - what I'm listening to or focusing on. It's different for everyone in different seasons. What boundaries do you need shift? It can be challenging, but oh so worth it. 💜Ruth x
Generosity Can't Exist Without Boundaries
