Invisible scratches that slowly erode. One moment of trying to please, another moment or trying to prove, another moment of trying to perfect, another moment of hiding who we are, another moment of trying to be like them...
It’s not easy to hear or live out, but really the only way to growth, healing, new adventures, vulnerability, connection, acceptance, belonging, contentment, dreams, wholehearted living is through discomfort, out of our comfort zones.
Let’s get clear about what we CAN control - our thoughts, attitudes, perspective/focus, words, actions, reactions... and what we CAN’T control - pretty much everything else.
In my experience, it is the hardest, darkest, most unwanted experiences that I’ve grown the most from (not always in the moment), that have propelled me into my purpose, that have opened opportunities I could never imagine, that give me tools to help others more than anything else.
Whose worse critic is themselves? 🙋♀️🙋♀️ I realized the other day that I am usually so thoughtful in how I speak and treat others, so intentional and caring and careful... BUT not towards myself.
Remember lovely, comparison steals what you already have, by wishing it was something else. Then you feel like you’ve got nothing - you don’t have what you’re wishing for and what you do have feels less then.
I know I have! Constantly criticizing, judging harshly, punishing, tearing down. How could we feel confident, when we keep beating ourselves up for being human. What if we were our greatest cheerleader - how different would we feel about ourselves??
“I want to be in the arena. I want to be BRAVE with my life. And when we make the choice to dare greatly, we sign up to get our butts kicked. We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time.” —Brené Brown
"So what if, instead of thinking about solving your *whole* life, you just think about adding additional GOOD THINGS. One at a time, you let your pile of good things grow". Love this thought!
There’s no mistake too big, no path too far, no pain too deep, that grace doesn’t cover. If you find yourself feeling, “how did I get here”, “who have I become”... that is the first courageous step back.
How many silly fights would be solved by this simple direction. Really, this is life changing. This is the main thing I hear in schools, “she said this...”, “someone told me she did that...”, “I don’t know why she’s acting like this...”
What real change can we make if we are just imitating everything around us. It takes courage and strength to be the difference, to take a stand, to go against the crowd.
here’s a few ways you can reframe and get freedom this week... No matter what we go through, we can reframe it and find freedom. We get to choose our focus. We get to choose our perspective.
Who else needs a good cry every now and then to help release all the feels? It’s amazing what really feeling the emotions and pain and overwhelm and confusion can do to help bring healing and release.
It’s our courage to be vulnerable and real that inspire others, not perfection. You don’t need to have it all together, you don’t need to get it right, you don’t need to know what you’re doing...
