We don’t criticize a flower for each stage of blossoming. No, each stage is so beautiful and unique. Each stage has purpose and leads to the next. So why do we criticize our own growth?
It’s not easy to hear or live out, but really the only way to growth, healing, new adventures, vulnerability, connection, acceptance, belonging, contentment, dreams, wholehearted living is through discomfort, out of our comfort zones.
There was once 12, now 8 of these tall proud rocky stacks. I wonder if it feels like a lot of your structures have fallen, things you thought would always be there, crumbled??
Your worth is NOT in what you do. You are valuable and worthy even if you never did another thing. You are allowed to rest. In fact, you cannot keep going without slowing down regularly. You don’t have endless resources, you need to pace yourself and refill. Taking to myself here.
We all need boundaries - they keep us healthy, refilled, compassionate, and loving. Without boundaries, it’s easy to fall into bitterness, resentment, burn out, fatigue, distrust ++ Boundaries are essential for self-care and caring for others well.
In my experience, it is the hardest, darkest, most unwanted experiences that I’ve grown the most from (not always in the moment), that have propelled me into my purpose, that have opened opportunities I could never imagine, that give me tools to help others more than anything else.
Remember lovely, comparison steals what you already have, by wishing it was something else. Then you feel like you’ve got nothing - you don’t have what you’re wishing for and what you do have feels less then.
I know I have! Constantly criticizing, judging harshly, punishing, tearing down. How could we feel confident, when we keep beating ourselves up for being human. What if we were our greatest cheerleader - how different would we feel about ourselves??
“I want to be in the arena. I want to be BRAVE with my life. And when we make the choice to dare greatly, we sign up to get our butts kicked. We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time.” —Brené Brown
Oh lovely one, I've been there. I used to measure myself against how others treated me or what they said. Giving everyone the power to dictate how I felt about myself.
We believe in YOU! But do you? Oh girl, I've been there. Thinking I didn't have what it takes, I wasn't enough, I've stuffed up too many times, I don't have what she has, I don't look like her, I've never done that before, I'm not worth it, no one sees me, what have I got to offer.
"So what if, instead of thinking about solving your *whole* life, you just think about adding additional GOOD THINGS. One at a time, you let your pile of good things grow". Love this thought!
Has anyone’s life gone exactly to plan? 🤷♀️ Mine sure hasn’t, and sometimes that’s been devastating but sometimes it’s been so much better than my plans...
“Kindness can transform someone's dark moment with a blaze of light. You'll never know how much your caring matters. Make a difference for another today.”
