Instead of waiting for the praise or approval of others - you can get it instantly from you - accepting yourself, knowing you are worthy and belong right here right now, regardless of circumstances.⁠

"It’s interesting how often we can’t see the ways in which we are being strong." – Lena Dunham⁠⁠

You will always have you around, so you may as well make it a priority to value yourself and build a loving relationship with yourself.

It can be a tough pill to swallow, but not everyone will get what you’re doing, how you’re doing it, or who you are. But that’s ok.

Oh lovely one, I've been there. I used to measure myself against how others treated me or what they said. Giving everyone the power to dictate how I felt about myself.

Let’s not seek health and growth to fit in, to be accepted, to prove something, to hide our pain, to cover our shame, to perfect ourselves.

Let's be flawsome together!! ✨ It's our weaknesses that can reveal our strengths. Our differences that make us unique. Our "failures" that can lead to our greatest victories.

I know I defined my worth by my looks for far too long. Always feeling less than. Always feeling insecure.

“You won’t figure out who you really are by pleasing people.” So please only say yes to things when you really mean it, and say no when you don’t.

Your beauty is unique and without comparison! Your mind is one of a kind. Your body is one of a kind. Your personality is one of a kind. You are one of a kind.

Haha, the struggle is real. But just like finding lost favourite bags and brand new tees we forgot about and all sorts of treasures amongst the trash... Our lives can be full of so many blessings and treasures, but sometimes are covered up in the mess. In the busyness of life, the stresses, the challenges, the heartbreaks, the ordinary.

Oh yes you do. It’s not your past, not their labels of you, not those words spoken over you, not their expectations or disappointments, not how you look or feel, not how the world sees you, not your mistakes or even your triumphs, but how YOU SAY you are.

Oh what freedom! I know I used to depend on the acceptance of others... I didn’t always chooseREAL. In high school, I chose to try and be like everyone else. I desperately wanted to fit in.

“Since I don't look like every other girl, it takes a while to be okay with that. To be different. But different is good.”

How often do you only see flaws, like laser vision, missing all your beauty and strength and only seeing disappointments. I know I have! But so often, we are not even looking at ourselves as we are - we are seeing ourselves through distorted filters and labels and unrealistic expectations and lies and comparing ourselves. But we were never meant to be compared - with are unique, one of a kind, without compare.

It takes courage to accept who you really are not who you think others want you to be. Be brave Sweet one, the real you is the best you - no matter what they say.

How often do we look at other peoples' lives and wish ours were different. Comparing our bloopers with their highlight reel. Wishing away our unique talents and gifts for some of theirs. But lovely one, they are only showing us what they WANT us to see.

There are so many things we believe about ourselves that just isn't true. But you are not alone. 70% of girls BELIEVE they are not good enough or don't measure up in some way. This is what we are so passionate about changing.

"This year I made one of my most important discoveries. I found out that I'd been walking through life with the wrong definition of self-worth.

We all get trapped in "shoulds", "woulds", "what ifs"... but you don't have to be anything other than who you really are. I know I did this - I would try and change myself to what I thought others wanted, to fit in. Letting go of who I was to be like everyone else. But it was confusing, lonely, empty. I didn't feel accepted because I didn't accept myself.

Y O U D E F I N E Y O U. Don't let the labels, the media, the opinions of others, your past define you. You get to choose who you'll become. You get to write your story. You get to name the chapter you're in.

Oh lovely one, I've been there. I used to measure myself against how others treated me or what they said. Giving everyone the power to dictate how I felt about myself. But high school is not always filled with kind people wanting to encourage you.

Because we need to remember that our worth and our value is not tied to a number...a number on our clothes, a number on the scale, or any number that we deem to be "perfect". As someone who spent years crying in dressing rooms, stepping on the scales multiple times a day, just trying to make it to a certain size, who was always trying to achieve that "perfect number", it is not worth it and it was never enough.

You are the best or worst friend you'll have. You choose. What words are you speaking over your life? Be your own cheer squad. You ARE more than enough, repeat it until in sinks in deep.

🌊 I just thought about the waves and how they come in and out - push forward and draw back. ⁠⁠There is this beautiful rhythm that sustains.⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Of pushing forward, leaning in, stepping out, being seen, output…⁠⁠ And drawing back, retreating, pulling back to the source, going deep, input…⁠⁠

🌻 What is the best gift 🎁 I can give myself in this chapter 📖 of my life? ⁠Maybe it’s permission to rest, to play, to see the good, to grieve, to slow down, to be courageous, to focus on your health, to take a risk, to give yourself grace, to invest time in something you love…⁠

“Perhaps, after all the love you have given to others you are free to trust you are worthy of love, too. You are free to trust there is a life worth living beyond carrying everything on your shoulders. ⁠

Your worth is NOT in what you do. You are valuable and worthy even if you never did another thing. You are allowed to rest. In fact, you cannot keep going without slowing down regularly. You don’t have endless resources, you need to pace yourself and refill. Taking to myself here.

Mid-week breather. There is a pace for your race, and that’s where you’ll discover grace.

Knowing when to rest shows your strength, wisdom, courage, and commitment. It is NOT weakness. It is NOT a cop-out. It is NOT lazy. It is NOT a failure. It is NOT unproductive. It is NOT useless. It is NOT selfish.

In September I realized I've actually been BURNT OUT all this year. That felt right but sounded like a bit of a shock. I mean so often you hear about burn out being these life shattering stops and breakdowns, but I was still pushing on. However, I've realized burn out can also be a SLOW EROSION.

“Of all the things I’ve done over the past year, asking for help is one of the things I’m most proud of. I’ve always prided myself on my ability to analyse and unpack stuff, but I can see now how important it was that I wasn’t the only head involved in that process.

B R E A T H E . Did you know that even just 3 deep breaths in and out can realign your system? If we've been pushing hard (physically and/or emotionally), our system depletes and we need to build it back up again.

A different kind of to do... I wonder, are you like me - with an endless list of things to be done, and keep putting off certain tasks over and over again? Little things that keep pilling up. They don't seem crucial to the big mission so they get left behind.

Just a few things to help make your day. What will you add today?

Your words matter. Here’s some helpful ways to practice speaking to ourselves… ⁠

What thoughts do you need to shift? I know so many of us do spring cleaning of all the old garbage and useless, outdated things in our house, but how often do we do a thought clean out?

I’ve got to admit, my playlist can be plugged into life one minute and then destruction the next. Lately, I was replaying, “you’re so stupid, why did you do that? What’s wrong with you? You’ve ruined everything!”

We’ve got to be really selective about what voices we listen to and hold onto. Not just rejecting the negative ones, but sometimes people are trying to help with their advice and opinion and it’s totally ok to thank them but know that it’s just an opinion, and you need to listen louder to the still quiet voice within.

Whose worse critic is themselves? 🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️ I realized the other day that I am usually so thoughtful in how I speak and treat others, so intentional and caring and careful... BUT not towards myself.

I know I have! Constantly criticizing, judging harshly, punishing, tearing down. How could we feel confident, when we keep beating ourselves up for being human. What if we were our greatest cheerleader - how different would we feel about ourselves??

I have a CONFESSION to make... I have been really struggling with how SELF-CRITICAL, condemning and harsh I am to myself. Saying things to myself that I would NEVER say to another person.

Not every thought we think is actually true or helpful. In fact, for most of us, our thoughts are usually tearing us down, not building us up.

So, I've been struggling with exhaustion, busyness and being overwhelmed, and constantly speaking this over my life - "I am so exhausted, I am so busy, everything is so hard and overwhelming" etc. I know how powerful our words and mindset are. And yet, I kept speaking this over my life.

Things happen. People do and say things. Everyday we are faced with things out of our control. But if we live our lives like a little sail boat crashed by every wave that comes past, pushed by the winds around us, we’ll end up far away from where we set out and feeling like we’re constantly drowning.

Your S E L F T A L K matters and can shape your life. Are you speaking worth, value, kindness, grace, acceptance, love, understanding, caring, encouragement over your life << OR >> being harsh to yourself, unforgiving, demanding, unkind, unrealistic, critical, pressured.

Did you know that the cactus "stores water to use it later". So when things are hard and dry, they have what they need to keep them going.

No matter what you're facing right now, remember, you are MORE THAN ENOUGH! Whether you feel like you're failing (been there), don't know your next step, heartbroken, struggling to feel ok, overwhelmed, confused, hurting, empty or full... Nothing changes the fact that you have intrinsic worth and value. NOTHING! It's who you are.

You are the best or worst friend you'll have. You choose. What words are you speaking over your life? Be your own cheer squad. You ARE more than enough, repeat it until in sinks in deep.

Last year, I was really struggling in a season of continually pain, loss and grief. I turned to the seasons of nature to see if I could learn anything to help me thrive in the season I was in. Oh yes! ⁠

Feeling burnout, exhausted, unmotivated? You’re not alone. It’s normal, here’s why...
So many of us have just kept pushing through, until eventually, we run out of “surge capacity” - a series of adaptive systems we draw on for SHORT TERM SURVIVAL in acutely stressful situations, such as natural disasters.

A few lessons from the season of ❄️ winter...
1. GROWING CAN FEEL LIKE DYING - A seed has to die & be buried in the ground before it can begin again in spring. But things aren’t actually dead - beneath the surface, the roots are very much alive.

In my experience, it is the hardest, darkest, most unwanted experiences that I’ve grown the most from (not always in the moment), that have propelled me into my purpose, that have opened opportunities I could never imagine, that give me tools to help others more than anything else.

Keep holding on lovely. ✨Light is on its way!✨ It may seem like the clouds ☁️ won’t pass, like you’re stuck in this downpour storm 🌧🌪. But like nature, eventually the clouds part ⛅️ and the sun ☀️ will shine through again.

I will be OK. I will be OK. Even before everything falls into place.

10 things to remember what you get stuck

“Of all the things I’ve done over the past year, asking for help is one of the things I’m most proud of. I’ve always prided myself on my ability to analyse and unpack stuff, but I can see now how important it was that I wasn’t the only head involved in that process.

Knowing what season you are currently in can bring clarity and purpose... "There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity...

Lovely one, it says way more about them then it does about you. Hurt people, hurt people. If someone can't see your worth, it's not because you don't have any. It's because they can't see their own worth so can't see yours.

B R E A T H E . Did you know that even just 3 deep breaths in and out can realign your system? If we've been pushing hard (physically and/or emotionally), our system depletes and we need to build it back up again.

YOU ARE STRONG. Even though we don't know the pain, the struggle, the insecurity, the heartache, the longing, the tear stained pillows, the disappointment, the waiting, the breakdown, the secret battles we know nothing about - or just don't understand.

What are you fighting for/fighting through right now? We're standing with you. You are not alone. Keep going lovely, one step at a time.

If getting a result today will negatively affect my well-being tomorrow, then it is not productive. 🤦‍♀️ WOW. Read that again.

We all need boundaries - they keep us healthy, refilled, compassionate, and loving.
Without boundaries, it’s easy to fall into bitterness, resentment, burn out, fatigue, distrust ++
Boundaries are essential for self-care and caring for others well.

What if your time cost money. How would you spend it? Would you invest it more in things you really cared about?

Ways to create a shift in your life: STOP… START…

In September I realized I've actually been BURNT OUT all this year. That felt right but sounded like a bit of a shock. I mean so often you hear about burn out being these life shattering stops and breakdowns, but I was still pushing on. However, I've realized burn out can also be a SLOW EROSION.

"Often we don't set boundaries, we let people do things that are NOT OK, or get away with behaviours that are not ok. Then we are just resentful and hateful.

Let’s get clear about what we CAN control - our thoughts, attitudes, perspective/focus, words, actions, reactions... and what we CAN’T control - pretty much everything else.

Scientists have said that every thought that enters the mind eventually finds a place in the body where it bears the burden. Your mindset during this crisis is everything.

What you SEE depends on what you’re LOOKING FOR. This week, let's look for the good - in ourselves, in others and in our circumstances.

3 great observations to help us get present and powerful. The more positive choices we actively make about our lives, the more we are designing the lives we want.

Remember lovely, comparison steals what you already have, by wishing it was something else. Then you feel like you’ve got nothing - you don’t have what you’re wishing for and what you do have feels less then.

"So what if, instead of thinking about solving your *whole* life, you just think about adding additional GOOD THINGS. One at a time, you let your pile of good things grow". Love this thought!

Note to self: Today I will NOT stress over things I can’t control. Truth bomb: We can’t control everything!

here’s a few ways you can reframe and get freedom this week... No matter what we go through, we can reframe it and find freedom. We get to choose our focus. We get to choose our perspective.

So much freedom in this attitude >> what challenge are you facing right now?

"I don't have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness - it's right in front of me if I'm paying attention and practicing gratitude"

We rub off on people whether we mean to or not. What we do makes an impact. How we act makes an impact. Our attitudes make an impact. Good or bad. And we get to choose what kind of impact we leave.

We’re always gonna live in a gap between where we are and where we want to be / our visions / dreams. But we get to choose what we NAME that space. We get to choose how we SEE it.

For those days when the waves just keep coming, when your energy is low and your emotions are high, when you feel like you're sinking or endlessly wading through shallows...

It’s time! It’s over. You don’t serve me well. Take a deep breath and say goodbye. I think sometimes we feed on stress, on drama, on busyness, thinking it’s helping us, pushing us forward, entertaining us, that it’s a great relationship. But then before we even realize, it’s sucking us dry.

We rub off on people whether we mean to or not. What we do makes an impact. How we act makes an impact. Our attitudes make an impact. Good or bad. And we get to choose what kind of impact we leave.

Here's what brain research says will MAKE YOU HAPPY:

“One day she finally grasped that unexpected things were always going to happen in life. And with that she realised the only control she had was how she chose to handle them. So, she made the decision to survive [and even thrive] using courage, humour and grace. She was the Queen of her own life and the choice was hers”

The past is in the past. What? So why do we keep bringing it up again as if it's in our future. Not letting it go, but dragging it around wherever we go. Taking it with us into new relationships, new opportunities, new situations.

I am always so amazed by the contagious joy and vibrancy of those our culture says has nothing. And in one way, it's true. But in another, they have so much more than us.

Weaknesses are easy to find - in ourselves and others. But pointing out other people's weaknesses only highlights our own. It reveals our own insecurities. And you never really feel good after tearing someone down, but oh my do you feel good when you lift someone up.

What a perspective! So often we focus on what we don't have, what's missing, our lack (I know I do!)... But what if we focused on all we DO have, on all we CAN do, on who we ALREADY ARE.

Don't you just love the simple wisdom of Pooh Bear! It's all about how we look at things. Here's a quick tip for dealing with overwhelm and being in the moment... I'm still learning this.

Just a few things to help make your day. What will you add today?

"So what if, instead of thinking about solving your <whole> life, you just think about adding additional GOOD THINGS. One at a time, you let your pile of good things grow".

What adventures will you embark on this weekend? Everyday is an adventure - sometimes we choose the pathway and sometimes we just land on it. But either way, we get to choose how we see it, our perspective, our responses, and what we take from each step.

Have you heard of kintsugi? It’s the art of repairing broken pottery with gold. This process beautifies the breakage and treats it as an important part of the object’s history, therefore valuing fractures instead of disguising them or glossing over them. The process typically results in something far more beautiful and stronger than the original.

There’s no mistake too big, no path too far, no pain too deep, that grace doesn’t cover. If you find yourself feeling, “how did I get here”, “who have I become”... that is the first courageous step back.

Comparison will rob you of beauty of the season YOU are in, of the unique journey YOU are on, of the courageous steps YOU take, of the big and small wins YOU make, of the story only YOU can tell.

“Wanting to be liked means being a supporting character in your own life, using the cues of the actors around you to determine your next line rather than your own script. It means that your self-worth will always be tied to what someone else thinks about you, forever out of your control.”

Oh yes you do. It’s not your past, not their labels of you, not those words spoken over you, not their expectations or disappointments, not how you look or feel, not how the world sees you, not your mistakes or even your triumphs, but how YOU SAY you are.

Being fearless and unstoppable doesn't mean we don't have fears or don't face setbacks or breakdowns, but that we continue, while still facing these things. We keep going in the midst of challenges.

How often do we look at other peoples' lives and wish ours were different. Comparing our bloopers with their highlight reel. Wishing away our unique talents and gifts for some of theirs. But lovely one, they are only showing us what they WANT us to see.

We all get trapped in "shoulds", "woulds", "what ifs"... but you don't have to be anything other than who you really are. I know I did this - I would try and change myself to what I thought others wanted, to fit in. Letting go of who I was to be like everyone else. But it was confusing, lonely, empty. I didn't feel accepted because I didn't accept myself.

No matter what you're facing right now, remember, you are MORE THAN ENOUGH! Whether you feel like you're failing (been there), don't know your next step, heartbroken, struggling to feel ok, overwhelmed, confused, hurting, empty or full... Nothing changes the fact that you have intrinsic worth and value. NOTHING! It's who you are.

There was NOTHING I could do, nothing I could say, nothing I could change (on the surface) to make me FEEL enough, accepted and happy with myself. Because what I was waiting for was already within me. I just didn't know it yet.

So often we are wishing our lives away for something that is already within us. I know I did this – I used to think “if only I looked like her”, “if only I had that”, “if only I didn’t have this”, “if only”, “if only”, “if only”, THEN my life would be good. I feel hard into the trap of comparison.

We all have influence. We all impact those around us, whether we are intentional or not. Your life is telling a story... What story do you want it to tell? Your story matters.

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the one who is actually IN THE ARENA, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly;

“Thanks for being brave with your life, you’ve made me more daring with mine”

There is soo much more to us than looks. Here’s 50 compliments that go deeper. Who can you encourage today... ⁠

These 2 words have been a GAME-CHANGER for me. You see I am a long-time expert at criticizing and judging myself. Pointing out what’s wrong, slamming myself when I make a mistake, harshly questioning why I did what I did or not allowing me to feel what I feel, “should”ing all over myself... I was trapped in the shame spiral.⁠

“A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life.” Christopher K. Germer

I don’t know anyone who doesn’t love being right!? But sometimes we’ve gotta give up proving we’re right, to be kind.

“Kindness can transform someone's dark moment with a blaze of light. You'll never know how much your caring matters. Make a difference for another today.”

How many silly fights would be solved by this simple direction. Really, this is life changing. This is the main thing I hear in schools, “she said this...”, “someone told me she did that...”, “I don’t know why she’s acting like this...”

“I don't agree with what you say but I will defend to the death your right to say it.” The speaker continued, “But today, it’s more like, ‘I don’t agree with what you say, so I will fight you to the death so you can no longer say it’”.

Let’s go treasure hunting today! Let’s call out the gold we see in others. What we see mainly depends on what we look for - if we’re focusing on what’s wrong or annoying or missing - that’s all we’ll see. So let’s shift our focus and look for the hidden beauty within each of us.

Lovely one, it says way more about them then it does about you. Hurt people, hurt people. If someone can't see your worth, it's not because you don't have any. It's because they can't see their own worth so can't see yours.

Weaknesses are easy to find - in ourselves and others. But pointing out other people's weaknesses only highlights our own. It reveals our own insecurities. And you never really feel good after tearing someone down, but oh my do you feel good when you lift someone up.

We believe in YOU! But do you? Oh girl, I've been there. Thinking I didn't have what it takes, I wasn't enough, I've stuffed up too many times, I don't have what she has, I don't look like her, I've never done that before, I'm not worth it, no one sees me, what have I got to offer.

Your beauty is unique and without comparison! Your mind is one of a kind. Your body is one of a kind. Your personality is one of a kind. You are one of a kind.

Note to self: Just because things didn’t go to plan, doesn’t mean the plan was wrong...

“Embrace uncertainty. Some of the most beautiful chapters in our lives won’t have a title until much later”

One step at a time lovely. You don’t need to know or understand the whole map - I never do! You don’t have to know what’s next right now.

Knowing what season you are currently in can bring clarity and purpose... "There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity...

We don’t criticize a flower for each stage of blossoming. No, each stage is so beautiful and unique. Each stage has purpose and leads to the next. So why do we criticize our own growth?

It’s not easy to hear or live out, but really the only way to growth, healing, new adventures, vulnerability, connection, acceptance, belonging, contentment, dreams, wholehearted living is through discomfort, out of our comfort zones.

A lot of hard changes may have happened lately, but hold on, a lot of good changes might be just around the corner.

Maybe life feels a little like this for you at the moment... no clear path ahead, big obstacles you’re facing, can’t see the other side.

This is what I need to keep reminding myself whenever I try something new or step out where I haven’t been before.

Change takes time. We can either fight it or embrace it. We can either hate the process, feeling like we’re failing each step, being so critical and have such unrealistic expectations. Oh yes, I can definitely do this 🤦‍♀️. OR we can fall in love 💜 with the process;

Endings create space for new beginnings. Somethings need to end for better things to begin.

Ways to create a shift in your life: STOP… START…

Being fearless and unstoppable doesn't mean we don't have fears or don't face setbacks or breakdowns, but that we continue, while still facing these things. We keep going in the midst of challenges.

There is light. It’s amazing the weight of purpose a tiny seed carries. But to grow, it must fall to the ground, be covered in darkness and wait. Sometimes our most challenging times holds the most amazing growth and new life. The darkness reveals the light we couldn’t see before but has always been there.

They all matter! I never used to do this and would always be feeling unproductive, like I wasn't achieving anything, like I was failing, because as soon as I'd achieved something or had a "win", I'd move straight on to the next thing.

Haha what reminds you that you're not a quitter... Is there anything you're facing right now that you just want to give up and quit?

A different kind of to do... I wonder, are you like me - with an endless list of things to be done, and keep putting off certain tasks over and over again? Little things that keep pilling up. They don't seem crucial to the big mission so they get left behind.

To anyone feeling unheard, unseen, unknown, or unworthy... You matter. You may not be noticed by everyone, but the truth is you are deeply known and seen, wrapped in endless grace and love, wanted, delighted in, significant, and more than enough.

Whenever I see myself in a photo, my instant reaction is usually what’s wrong with it 🤦‍♀️🙅‍♀️. It’s like we’ve been programmed by our culture to expect one skewed version of perfection, nothing less.

Shake it off lovely, it’s a brand new day. A new adventure awaits. The sun is rising over our yesterday. Let’s start afresh.

In high school, I fell hard into the trap of comparison. I would think, if only I looked like her or had that, or didn't have this, THEN my life would be great.

“Wanting to be liked means being a supporting character in your own life, using the cues of the actors around you to determine your next line rather than your own script. It means that your self-worth will always be tied to what someone else thinks about you, forever out of your control.”

“Stop trying to 'fix' yourself; you're NOT broken! You are perfectly imperfect and powerful beyond measure.” ― Steve Maraboli

Right now! Not when you reach that goal, or stop that habit, or feel differently, or achieve more, or "fix" yourself, or have more, do more, be more, or work through your past, or get through this current hardship, or get seen and acknowledge by others.

There are so many things we believe about ourselves that just isn't true. But you are not alone. 70% of girls BELIEVE they are not good enough or don't measure up in some way. This is what we are so passionate about changing.

Lovely one, it says way more about them then it does about you. Hurt people, hurt people. If someone can't see your worth, it's not because you don't have any. It's because they can't see their own worth so can't see yours.

"This year I made one of my most important discoveries. I found out that I'd been walking through life with the wrong definition of self-worth.

Because we need to remember that our worth and our value is not tied to a number...a number on our clothes, a number on the scale, or any number that we deem to be "perfect". As someone who spent years crying in dressing rooms, stepping on the scales multiple times a day, just trying to make it to a certain size, who was always trying to achieve that "perfect number", it is not worth it and it was never enough.

Invisible scratches that slowly erode. One moment of trying to please, another moment or trying to prove, another moment of trying to perfect, another moment of hiding who we are, another moment of trying to be like them...

“I want to be in the arena. I want to be BRAVE with my life. And when we make the choice to dare greatly, we sign up to get our butts kicked. We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time.” —Brené Brown

We believe in YOU! But do you? Oh girl, I've been there. Thinking I didn't have what it takes, I wasn't enough, I've stuffed up too many times, I don't have what she has, I don't look like her, I've never done that before, I'm not worth it, no one sees me, what have I got to offer.

You don’t need to fix yourself lovely, there’s nothing wrong with you. Be who you really are, not who you expect others want you to be.

In high school, I fell hard into the trap of comparison. I would think, if only I looked like her or had that, or didn't have this, THEN my life would be great.

Have you ever not done something in fear of failure, or not seen how good something was because it wasn’t what you expected it should be? “Perfect” is an impossible, unachievable trap.

“I stopped comparing myself to whomever I thought I was suppose to be”

In a world that has has endless choices and options, it can become overwhelming and we can find ourselves saying "I don't even know what I want?!"

Let's be flawsome together!! ✨ It's our weaknesses that can reveal our strengths. Our differences that make us unique. Our "failures" that can lead to our greatest victories.

I know I defined my worth by my looks for far too long. Always feeling less than. Always feeling insecure.

“Stop trying to 'fix' yourself; you're NOT broken! You are perfectly imperfect and powerful beyond measure.” ― Steve Maraboli

Your beauty is unique and without comparison! Your mind is one of a kind. Your body is one of a kind. Your personality is one of a kind. You are one of a kind.

Oh yes you do. It’s not your past, not their labels of you, not those words spoken over you, not their expectations or disappointments, not how you look or feel, not how the world sees you, not your mistakes or even your triumphs, but how YOU SAY you are.

Y O U D E F I N E Y O U. Don't let the labels, the media, the opinions of others, your past define you. You get to choose who you'll become. You get to write your story. You get to name the chapter you're in.

There is soo much more to us than looks. Here’s 50 compliments that go deeper. Who can you encourage today... ⁠

I don’t know anyone who doesn’t love being right!? But sometimes we’ve gotta give up proving we’re right, to be kind.

“Kindness can transform someone's dark moment with a blaze of light. You'll never know how much your caring matters. Make a difference for another today.”

How many silly fights would be solved by this simple direction. Really, this is life changing. This is the main thing I hear in schools, “she said this...”, “someone told me she did that...”, “I don’t know why she’s acting like this...”

“I don't agree with what you say but I will defend to the death your right to say it.” The speaker continued, “But today, it’s more like, ‘I don’t agree with what you say, so I will fight you to the death so you can no longer say it’”.

Let’s go treasure hunting today! Let’s call out the gold we see in others. What we see mainly depends on what we look for - if we’re focusing on what’s wrong or annoying or missing - that’s all we’ll see. So let’s shift our focus and look for the hidden beauty within each of us.

Weaknesses are easy to find - in ourselves and others. But pointing out other people's weaknesses only highlights our own. It reveals our own insecurities. And you never really feel good after tearing someone down, but oh my do you feel good when you lift someone up.

Belonging and fitting in are not the same thing. In fact, fitting in gets in the way of belonging. Fitting in is about assessing a situation and becoming who you need to be to be accepted. CHANGING yourself to fit in.

There is soo much more to us than looks. Here’s 50 compliments that go deeper. Who can you encourage today... ⁠

What real change can we make if we are just imitating everything around us. It takes courage and strength to be the difference, to take a stand, to go against the crowd.

NO ONE becomes successful overnight. It may appear that way at times, but behind that one step that really launched something was MILLIONS OF SMALL STEPS that led to the breakthrough.

It’s our courage to be vulnerable and real that inspire others, not perfection. You don’t need to have it all together, you don’t need to get it right, you don’t need to know what you’re doing...

We all have influence. We all impact those around us, whether we are intentional or not. Your life is telling a story... What story do you want it to tell? Your story matters.